I’ve had this in my drafts for weeks now, trying to be pithy yet honest and not just unleashing a rage of vitriol and hatred. Unfortunately I’m not sure that’s worked as my feelings towards humanity today are not great.
I think of all the lessons I’ve learnt the hard way, the one I am most in tune with today is that Humans suck. People seem to be so caught up with being “right” or “better” than others, they seem to forget that what makes us all the same is much greater than what divides us.
This week in Bournemouth, a homeless man passed away on the streets, and the hatred I’ve seen expressed has really depressed me (and bought out my own inner keyboard warrior) because I knew Kev, he was kind, generous, didn’t do drugs, or drink, or really push himself out there in any way. I tried to give him food and he’d tell me to give it to the needy, or if I was having issues (generally with a few other homeless) then he was always good at offering to help me, to make sure I was safe and not bothered.
Anyway, as he has passed away, there has been a couple of articles about it in the local paper, and the hatred that I’ve seen from people, for someone they didn’t know (ok, I’m not saying we were best buddies or anything) but to say things like “well, that’s one down, a few more to go” or “typical junkie waster” is really hurtful. I don’t get how people can be so hate filled, this was a human, in their town and a member of their community, yet they seems to be really getting behind the media and certain pundits who say these people are “below human/cockroaches” or the like. I’m so depressed with how people act to each other and I honestly don’t understand how people CAN be like this. I’m sorry, but if someone is suffering, I would rather try to help them out than ignore them.
I’m not being rose spectacled about this, I know that there are horrible things happening everywhere, at all times and nothing is done to correct these injustices but I am also aware that in an ideal world it wouldn’t be like this but this ISN’T an ideal world but I would just like to make my little corner of it a bit better, a bit more bearable.
Homelessness can happen to anyone, in this country you’re (apparently) only 2 paychecks from homelessness and I think that’s being generous down here….when I worked at Mccys, I was taking home at max £800 a month, I was entitled to no help from the council etc and my rent was £545, council tax £80 per month so I had a grand total of £175.00 for transport, food, all other bills, laundry and emergencies. When I went to try to set up a debt plan to pay for something, I was told I should be spending £50 on clothes….which I wasn’t, then was told “but you should be” as though I could just find this cash from the magic money bush. But it could happen to anyone and I don’t believe it’s always down to the choices you make. Ok, I do know some homeless who don’t want to work, don’t want to be part of the system and I get that. But it doesn’t mean you can tar them all with the same brush.
If this week has done anything though, it has prompted me to take action. I’ve sent a food delivery to the local food bank, I’ve offered my volunteering services to the local soup kitchen, i’ve donated to homeless charities (I do this fairly frequently anyway) and have decided that I need to do more, there’s a guy i’ve started helping who busks near where I work. I haven’t seen him since I heard about Kev passing away but it’s given me more drive to try and help more. I’m not trying to fix problems or solve everything in his life, more that I just want him to feel less invisible to the world. Someone cares and someone wants to help. I’m hoping that’s a good thing.
So, apologies, this has been quite a dreary blog. Below are some other lessons i’ve learned the hard way, I’m not going into the how I found out these to my cost but I think these ring true for a lot of us.
Trust is an easy thing to give, a really difficult thing to keep or get back if someone abuses it.
If you leave them alone, they will leave you alone.
marble and snow don’t mix
Sometimes people say things that they really don’t mean, some people find it easier to lie than be honest
A lie can run around the world before the truth has got its boots on.